A Story About Subtle Psychological Abuse
in Relationships
She lost her confidence and Self Esteem
She was a very confident person, with a great
vision and even greater ambitions... she wanted to conquer the world, do
something deeply impacting, and she had the confidence to do it.
She was ready to pick a challenge at a moments notice and usually came out
at the top too...
Marriage Problems took their toll slowly eroding away at her confidence and
self esteem leaving a mere empty shell of her former self...
She went from being a student at the
bottom of her class in college to being a straight A student within a year
at the university, and she got enrolled with flying colors into the toughest
courses... like math, physics and engineering.
She became one of the best and her
confidence soared. She could do anything she set her mind to... and she did
too.
She got a job in one of the most
challenging places and situations and proved her mettle. She worked her way
right to the top, in fact became a celebrity to some extent.
She learned to drive a car in one of the
most technically challenged countries and dangerous driving situations in
the developing world, soon she was driving with supreme confidence
even in the most dense and life threatening hazardous conditions.
She had become the envy of some, the
aspiration and inspiration of others.
She was admired, respected, loved and...
also hated by people who were jealous of her success...
...Until she got married.
Her supreme confidence was very
slowly and unwittingly eroded by a mother in law and other in-laws who felt
inadequate in her presence. They felt she had to live by their rules. Even
though they thought they were being nice to her as they were basically good
people only limited by the concepts of a society that is eroded and
corrupted by discrimination against women or by basic human nature to
control...
[A barbaric society where wife beating,
murdering at even the slightest notion of unfaithfulness, burning women due
to not bringing in sufficient dowry upon marriage... gives unlimited powers
to the in-laws. Even in the more sophisticated and educated families, just
the verbal aggression is sufficient to drive any sane person over the edge.
Perhaps it’s the insane urge to control, manipulate, or just the misguided
ego of a heartless miserable human being]
...And this process was so subtle over a
period of years that she could not even realize what was happening until she
hit rock bottom... or was it because Women who are outstanding yet sensitive
to their cultural setups and try to live and adjust in both worlds are more
gullible in personal relationships and may get caught up in shifting sands
unknowingly or unwittingly, whatever it was...
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She got scared of driving her car
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She started feeling inadequate and
incapable of holding a job
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She started feeling like a worthless
looser
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She felt incapable of living a normal
life
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She was unable to make a simple decision
for herself even like choosing the color of dress she wanted to wear
without seeking external approval
And then one day, She got sick and tired
of all her marriage problems...
Something touched at
her core being and she decided enough was enough, she had to get back on
track, she had to regain her former confidence and start living by her own
rules. But first she had to breakout of the self defeating records that were
constantly playing in her mind over and over again these days and bringing
her down... she had to master her mind first and get back in control.
And she did.
She recovered, she got back a newer more
confident and more successful life. A life tailored by her to match her own
dreams and aspirations even surpassing what she had previously... even more
self confident and self esteem then even before and more success.
She found help...
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