The Fear of being left alone, lonely or Friendless...
PS: If you or someone you know are
suffering from the fear of being left alone at home... say a kid or a person
panics every time he/she is left alone, this is considered a phobia
and can be overcome successfully with some of the resources mentioned here.
And if you have a debilitating fear of being deserted by people in your life;
have no family, or are an introvert and find it difficult to build relationships,
then please read the article below -- Or read it anyways, you could find the
information Life Changing.
My Loneliness is Killing Me...
If you have an intense
fear of being left alone, of being left friendless, of being deserted by your
family, of spending time all alone, feeling lonely and miserable due to loneliness...
Fear No More!
This fear of being
left alone or being lonely usually arises if you are experiencing problems in
your relationships... You are scared that your partner / family / friends will
abandon you and you
will be left alone with no where to go, no one to turn to, no friends, no
fun... no life. You are basically scared that you will not be able to cope or
start all over again.
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Sometimes the fear of
loneliness may be so intense that people continue to tolerate drastic physical
and emotional abuse at the hands of unhealthy relationships instead of breaking
up and making a fresh healthy start.
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It
may also arise in Parents who are scared that their children will one day leave
home and they will be left to cope alone... In this case it may also be
referred to as 'the empty nest syndrome'
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It may arise in
'introvert' people , who find it difficult to relate to others and are scared
of displeasing someone close to them for fear of being left all alone.
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Or Sometimes it may even
arise in 'extrovert' people or even teenagers who feel they have to conform to
peer pressure else they will not have any friends and consequently fun ...
The
root cause of this fear of being left alone is due to issues of self esteem and
problems building healthy relationships. These issues are buried deep in a
person's subconscious mind and manifest as debilitating fear.
How to overcome the
fear of being alone:
Never feel lonely.
Fear is only an emotion in your mind - a response to the false idea of being
left alone. You can overcome these fear producing thoughts in your mind.
Even if you are
single and do not have any family...
By family I do not necessarily mean man/woman/kids... even if you do not
have any siblings, or living parents or even friends or even immediate family
through marriage and having kids...
Or even if you have
family, but your relationships are so threadbare, that you feel you have no
where to turn to, yet you are scared of stepping out of the boundaries of such
unworkable relationships for fear /scared of being left alone
Do not ever feel
lonely...
Remember
to think a little outside the ‘box’... The entire world is one ‘big’
family. We are all one. We are a human race and we belong together.
So even if you
do not have someone you can call ‘your own’ in the conventional terms...
Remember you are
never alone.
The world
is full of millions and millions of people... they are mostly all alone.
Most of them even have lots of ‘blood relatives’ ... people they can call
‘family’, yet deep down they may feel alone and isolated.
So even if
you do not have a single blood or legal relative... Don’t feel lonely. the
world is full of people and you can go out and connect with them.
Remember it is
the people who care about you that really matter...
Irrespective of whether they are blood related or not or whether they are
legally related or not.
If someone
is able to give you attention, make you feel important and care about you
to some extent… they are technically your family. So never feel alone.
Dealing With Loneliness
-- What you
basically need to do is...
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to go out and
connect,
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go
out and care ,
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go out and
make people feel important,
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go out and
show that you care about them…
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and you will
get the same feelings in manifold return...
Remember the
law of attraction. You attract what ever you give out. So if people are
not coming to you... you go out and connect with them.
How do you
connect with people... Overcoming Loneliness
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You can join
some similar interest groups and clubs.
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You can
volunteer your time / services at the old peoples home.
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You can
volunteer your time / services to orphanages, charity organizations like
the big brothers, you can volunteer to help less fortunate people
somehow.
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You can
sponsor kids who need help, or even sponsor whole families who are less
fortunate,
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You can adopt
a child,
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You can
volunteer with people who need some type of care/companionship.
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You can
volunteer for activities and events in your community
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Basically, find your
passion or a hobby and start working towards it with total absorption
and energy. You will not only kill your loneliness, You will also start attracting like minded people who
admire you and want to be friends with you.
The world is full of
children, elders, women, friendless... people who need you. They have got
love to give and lives to share. They need you.
You can fill your
life with love, meaning, sharing, companionship, happiness, feelings of
worthiness and even more... self fulfillment.
How to Overcome My
Loneliness -- Get out. Get
active. Get involved.
Very soon
you will find that you are not alone.
You will be able to develop a whole support network of people who will
care about you.
So go get started. You are not alone. There are people waiting to bond
with you.
Every time a false
thought of fear of being left alone enters your mind, simply eliminate it
and replace it with a happy thought. Visualize yourself laughing, enjoying
and having fun with lots of caring, sharing people around you... then go
out and get involved with people and activities... Very soon you will find
your life so full of friends and companions.... that you will laugh at the
idea that you were ever scared of being lonely.
PS: If you are an Introvert, have no
friends or family, or are experiencing the fear of a breakup/ loneliness
due to being left alone, Check out the following tools because they
Work:
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