How to deal with loneliness after a divorce ,
marriage separation or break up
Okay so you've been dumped or
divorced or have had a breakup and now you are finding it hard to face life all
alone. You are suddenly faced with big chunks of emptiness in your life... all
those hours you spent on your relationship... Hell, your entire life might even
have revolved around it... and now suddenly it is no more.
No more waiting or cooking for
someone for dinner.
No more going out with
No more seeking approval for
No one to go home to.
No one for sharing secrets
No sympathetic shoulder to cry
No more relying upon someone
for advice in decision making.
No more someone to lean on.
Socializing is even worse,
because all your friends / family have got their partners to share life with,
and alone with them you almost feel like an outcast... even more lonely.
You feel like you are left floating in the air like a 'rudderless kite' with
nothing to ground you. You feel like withdrawing further. The contrast in your
situations is making you feel so bad that You don't even want to go out and be
with them anymore.
Hey wake up baby ! This is
life. You have to learn to be independent, self reliant and self confident all
over again - just like you were before you got entangled in that failed
relationship - or even better. Yes, you have to get out of the bondage of
codependency - if that is what is pulling you down. And get back up on your own
You don't need to shut
yourself out from the world. You don't need to mope around feeling terrible
loneliness. Wake up to reality and face the world. Fight with the loneliness
overcoming it and cure it completely. The solution for you right now is to get
excitement, passion and purpose back in your life where it belongs.
Here are some strategies to
help you in dealing with loneliness and overcoming it completely and absolutely:
The end of your marriage, or
the break up of your relationship does not symbolize the end of an era, it
symbolizes a new beginning, a rejuvenation, a re-generation or a re-birth -
This is an opportunity to recreate your life - And that is how you should treat
There is always great
rejoicing at the start of a new life... That is why birthdays are always
celebrated. So this is your new birthday ... a new beginning for you. Go out and
celebrate. Treat yourself to something you have always wanted to do. Treat
yourself to something that makes you feel happy. Treat yourself to something
that makes you feel excited and full of life.
And if you can't feel
the excitement of this new beginning. If your feelings have been so numbed by
your old emotional baggage that you can't feel anything inside yourself except
hopelessness of your situation and deep loneliness. Then I will advise you to
Overcoming Depression or try any of the following, whichever feels more
applicable to you:
After listening a few times , I can guarantee that you will literally
'feel something shift within yourself' . You will feel the need to get up and
move. You will find yourself doing things that felt unthinkable previously. Your
feelings of hopelessness will fall away. And you will soon be loving and living
life with a new excitement, passion and purpose.
This could be one of the best solutions for you, and you will be wise not
to waste anymore of your precious time and life looking for other ways to cure
So Stop feeling sorry for
yourself and decide to get over your breakup once and for all. Once you make
this decision it will be a very liberating moment for you. You won't let any old
emotional baggage pull you down.
Your feelings of
loneliness and lack of passion for life is a crystal clear indication that you
have not yet gotten over your old relationship or over your divorce or
separation yet. Here are some more articles that could help you in coping with
loneliness after your breakup:
Dealing With Loneliness - Here are more how
to deal with loneliness articles to help you fight and cure
PS: If you are having problems dealing
with loneliness - Check out the following tools to fight
loneliness - Because they Work: