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Tips and Strategies for Surviving a Breakup
A break up is simply a failed 'chemistry
experiment' -- It could happen due to any one of a thousand and one
reasons: Breakdown in communications, two clashing egos, taking things for
granted, not able to cope with each others quirks or perceptions of life,
emotional or psychological isolation, jealousy, lack of trust, anger,
cheating, lying, power struggle, money -- what ever the underlying reason
for the break up -- life does not end there.
Yes, even if it failed, it does not mean the
end. You have simply learned ways of how not to do certain things in your
future.
There is a life after breakup.
So what ... you were dumped, probably
brutally emotionally thrashed and hurt bad... but then so was your ex --
at least from his/her point of view.
So stop being a victim. Get up right now
and dust off your pants. You do have a part in this and you better accept
your responsibility right now.
Your part in this whole saga was that:
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You allowed this to happen to you,
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You unwittingly attracted and entered into a
relationship that was not right from the very beginning.
C'mon a breakup does not happen over night.
I am sure you remember the first time you had a disagreement, the first
time you had an argument or the first time you fought -- What was it
about?
Or maybe it was neither of the above. You
partner's attitude just gave you a 'shock'. All of a sudden it gave you a
glimpse into his/her real self -- It made you realize how different you
were. Or perhaps the attitude simply hurt your feelings - made you feel
rejected or slighted or made you feel small and insulted.
Now if your partner was not a total sex
pervert, or a total jerk who treated or used you badly, then the important
question is: what could
you have done right at that first moment to change the outcome of things?
But what if your partner was a total jerk/
bitch? -- in that case, why did you get hitched up with him/her in the
first place?
So you do have a responsibility however
small. You are NOT a victim. So for Goodness sake, stop acting like one!
Once you accept your role in this breakup,
surviving after breakup becomes much more simpler.
You need to release all the negative
self talk that is right now holding you captive such as... thoughts of
revenge, feelings of helplessness, anger, hatred, rage, jealousy, guilt,
all this emotional trash has to go, so that you can start on your road to
survive a break up.
You can release all these feelings by
listening to
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by using
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Now
Don't tell me you don't have the tools to cut out that negative chatter in
your mind. I have shown you the best. Now it's your job to use them and do
your part... Remember the old saying "You can lead a horse to water... but
can you make it drink?". So don't waste your life , take action now in
eliminating the killer self talk and negative feelings from your mind.
Next you need to stop
complaining and start taking action - you need to change your attitude -
for if you continue with your current attitude and your current state of
mind -- you will simply attract more of the same situations into your life
-- and will undergo a repetition of the same cycle again and again and
again.
So
Change your attitude - Tips and Strategies for Surviving the breakup:
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Stop complaining.
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Choose to be happy right
now.
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Make a decision to live
your life with purpose and passion.
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Start by eliminating all
negative thoughts and influences from your life and replacing them with
positive thoughts.
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Always expect the best.
Develop possibility thinking.
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Try to focus on the
silver lining in every situation. Find one even if it does not appear to
be present.
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Even if you do not see a
way -- build your own doors -- be the master or mistress of your own
universe.
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Start being thankful for
even the smallest things in your life.
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Allow forgiveness into
your life.
Here are 3 practical steps you can take right NOW to
get over your break up fast and forever:
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Right now I want you to
start dealing with your negatives - issues such as anger over the break
up, jealousy, forgiveness, pain, feelings of guilt etc. Deal with them
right away. This will free up the space in your brain which is currently
being occupied by such issues. You will experience intense relief once you
let go of these unhealthy emotions from your mind. To make it easy for
you, you can use automation tools like
Self
Hypnosis Mp3's for dealing with break up issues....
Or
Self
Help Audio CD's ... Start listening to them right away.
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Eliminate the negative chatter from your mind, and start slowly but
surely replacing it with positive thoughts and feelings. You can achieve
this by immersing yourself in positive influences. To start off, find some time to visit your local library and get some self help
books, I am sure it is loaded with them. Start reading them one at a time.
Here are some free articles to help you with possibility thinking.
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Start taking some action to better
your life. For instance you could improve your
qualifications or skills or get involved in some extra-curricular
activities or even some kind of volunteer work. You can start by reviewing
and updating your resume right now.
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If you feel that none of the above
strategies will work for you, then try meditation and stress relief
techniques for overcoming your break up. Automate the process to make it
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