Is Your
Partner Worth Saving A Marriage?
By Julia Tanner
Anyone that has said marriage was easy had to be single! There
is nothing easy about merging your life with another person.
Several decades ago, people did not divorce because they were
in circumstances in which it was simply not an option – women
could not support themselves and society did not accept it,
among many others. Now, however, marriages are ending left and
right. If you are in a marriage that is on the rocks, it may be
a good time to consider whether your partner and the life you
have is worth saving a marriage. As difficult as it is to make
a marriage work, it is even harder to save one that is already
damaged.
In looking at saving a marriage, you should not only look at
current circumstances, but also the history the two of you
share together. How did you meet? What was it that made you
fall in love? Were you ever really in love? At some point, you
should consider the good times instead of only dwelling on the
bad. If you and your spouse are experiencing a bad time, it is
easy to block out that good times ever existed. However, you
should be fair to yourself and your partner.
Then, it is time to look at the bad times. Did either of you
cheat? Are there other major issues that have occurred between
you that one of you has a hard time dealing with? Sometimes
these major issues get buried over time, but the resentment
remains and it eats away at the relationship. Do you find
yourself being mad at your spouse over little things or for no
reason at all? If this is the case, you should really look at
the underlying issues you have.
At some point, you should close your eyes and picture what the
perfect spouse would be. Not Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie, but
the real characteristics you would like to have in your spouse.
Then you should step back and see how your spouse measures up.
You should be very careful to be realistic in this exercise. If
you have unrealistic expectations, you will never be happy with
anyone. However, if the essential core of your spouse is
deficient, you may be selling yourself short by staying.
Although saving a marriage is difficult, you should not rush
off and get a divorce. You should, however, try to be fair to
you and your spouse and choose to both try wholeheartedly or to
let go completely.
About The Author: Julia Tanner is a professional writer. More
articles can be found at:
http://www.carribeanweddingspage.com
,
http://www.savingamarriagepage.com,
http://www.westernweddingpage.com
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