Don’t know
how to break up a relationship peacefully? Read and follow the tips
below :
1. Accept and
recognize that the relationship is indeed over.
Doing so will lead to a firm and wise decision. Your decision
should never be half-baked. You must be able to come to terms
with your own feelings. This may sound easier said than done
but this is absolutely necessary. Be honest with yourself.
Avoid being in denial, especially about your feelings.
2. Once you have determined that the relationship is over and
that it is time to end it formally then you must act quickly.
Do not delay what will inevitably happen. Things will only
become worse if you put breaking up with your partner on hold.
Breaking up will take up extraordinary courage and strength on
your part but it will cost you more if you try to postpone it.
Try to determine on the right place and time for your break up.
But do it soon.
3. Break up with your partner personally. I have heard of
individuals who have broken up with their partners through a
friend. This is not a good practice. It is actually a sign of
disrespect towards your partner. The issue is between you and
your partner and no one else you should get involved. It will
be hard enough for your partner to learn that you will break up
with him but It will definitely be harder for him if he learns
it from someone else. At least give him the dignity of learning
the news from you. This will also give both of you a chance to
say what you want to say to each other.
4. Choose a quiet and private place to meet up when you have
finally decided on a date when to tell your partner that you
are breaking up with him. This will enable both of you to have
an intimate talk. Outside distraction can make it more
difficult for both of you to understand each other.
5. Make sure that both you and your partner are calm and
rational before you finally break up with him. To do this you
must find a time or schedule when both of you are not busy. It
is ideal to this on a weekend so work will not be on the way.
Do not tell him you want to break with him when either of you
is angry or while arguing.
6. Be straightforward. You owe it to your partner to be honest
and firm. Avoid being brutal though. Be sensitive to his
feelings. Let him understand why you want to break up with him
in the first place. Be firm and decisive. I f you really want
to break up with him then don’t mislead him that you two are
just letting things cool off. This will only lead in more
serious problems.
7. Assure your partner that you are open to remaining being
friends with him. Tell him that you will never forget his
positive qualities and that you appreciate all the things that
he has done for you. Also tell him the things that you have
learned from your relationship with him. Stress out that you
want and that you are ready to move on and that he should do
the same.
8. Provide a proper closure to your relationship. This will be
beneficial for both of you and will allow both of you to move
on. Smoothen out any unresolved issues particularly with
finances, ownership, etc. These issues can haunt you both in
the future.
9. Be positive and encouraging. This will make the transition
easy for both you and your partner. Learn to forgive and ask
for forgiveness. Life is too short to hold grudges.
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