If you are looking for a reason to break up , I
want to know why?
Usually couples
already have reasons a mile long before they break up. They don't go looking for
reason's to break up.
This means that
you are possibly in a perfect relationship that you cannot even find a decent
reason to break up. To understand the reasons for breaking up, you might
first read why couples break up?
Remember to make
a relationship work, both partner's are equally responsible. communication is a
two way thing and so is a relationship. You cannot just expect your partner to
do all the work to keep your relationship smooth - you have to put in effort
too.
Now let's find
for you a reason to break up:
1. first get
very clear - what's not right or what is missing from your relationship - why are you
looking for a reason to break up?
Make a list of all the things you feel are
missing from your relationship ( what's missing: Peace of mind, happiness, joy,
sharing, trusting, enjoying each others company, adequate communication, the
emotional element , etc.) Come up with the exact reasons about what's missing
from your relationship.
2. Now assign
some responsibility - how much of the missing element do you think is due to
your own attitude and how much is due to your partner's attitude?
3. Make a list
of all the good qualities of your partner.
4. Now make a
list of all the elements that you find distasteful in your partner.
5. Here you need
to involve your partner, and discuss openly about how you feel and what possible
changes you can make to re-kindle the spark in your relationship.
In fact both you and your partner can come
up with things that you want to see changed in the relationship. And try to work
it together. Try to do new interesting activities together.
6. If there is a
break down of communication and your partner is not willing to cooperate with
you in resolving your relationship issues... now you have got a reason to break
up already.
7. Though please
note: that the lack of joy or enthusiasm or happiness in the relationship might
not be just your partner's fault...
It could equally likely be your own
attitude. And just breaking away from this relationship will not solve your
problems because they are more than skin deep.
They are deeply embedded in your mind. You
will take your mind and consequently problems to any other relationships you
have in the future, and will start feeling the same way after the 'shine of the
new toy' has worn off...
To resolve this
issue once and for all you are advised to get happiness and joy
Self
Help Audio CD's .
Use them until your issues are resolved. They work.
8. Here is another bit of advice - if you are
experiencing emotional or physical abuse at the hand of your partner... Stop
waiting for a reason to break up... Get out right now and save yourself from
further pain.
PS: You may also read
Why Couple's Break Up