Living with the Pain of a Break up
If you are living with the pain of a breakup,
please understand that you are not alone. There are thousands upon thousands of
other people just like you who have gotten through or are going through a break
up at this very moment. In fact some of them might even be much more worse off
than you - being forced to experience a very nasty bad break up. The only
difference between you and them is in the way how you chose to handle the
situation - Are you allowing the pain of the breakup to control you?
Remember for most life situations however intense
there is a very powerful idiom proven over and over again through the ages -
This too shall pass - Now the question is:
Are you holding on longer than you should? If you
are, than you are not being true to yourself.
Imagine yourself living in a hell hole of
pain...
There is no where to go. It's all there around you, inside you. every
where you turn there is pain. Day in day out that's what you are experiencing -
pain. Then one day something happens and it suddenly dawns upon you that
you've chosen the pain! You're forcing yourself to stay inside that hell hole of
pain. You can break free any time you want. With this realization comes
freedom... the sweet taste of escape from the pain in that hell hole. You push
through and push upwards and suddenly you bust free from that self imposed jail
house. You are out in the clear, free at last and enjoying the immense
relief of freedom. You just take a very small moment to look back and wonder:
'Dear God why was I foolish enough to stay in there for so long, I could have
gotten out long ago'. Then you turn towards peace and freedom and run on as fast
as you can.
OK...OK... You don't see the point I am trying to
make.
What I am simply saying is You have the power to
step out of this pain right now. Okay. What happened, happened. There's no way
it can be undone. No time machine has been invented yet that will allow you to
travel back in time and change all those painful experiences you had.
But Why are you condemning yourself to re-live
them over and over again in your mind.
Your mind cannot distinguish between what's real or what's imagined. If you are re-playing your bad experiences in your
mind over and over again everyday - like a movie that is stuck on
replay - You are simply amplifying the agony in your mind over and over again.
In fact your mind thinks it's real and not just a memory on perpetual re-play.
And that's what is causing all the pain and agony of the break-up in your life.
The natural tendency of our life is to heal and
move forwards, towards better, happier and lighter living. You are being
artificial... by forcing yourself to stay stuck in that mental re-play of your
bad memories. You are living under intense pressure by forcing against your
natural instincts.
In fact, Why do you need to rant and rave
and be angry, sad or depressed or in pain about your breakup? Have you ever
thought about it...
Is it because this is what society
expects of you or because you are really saddened or angered or depressed by
your breakup. Is your emotional outburst and failure to overcome your breakup
really motivated by the loss of a great relationship or more by the loss of
'face' at being dumped? Are you holding on to your past because you feel that
you're now too old, or lazy or slothful to be able to get into a better
relationship or because you're scared that you will not be able to get into a
better relationship?
Why not be different?
Instead of expressing what every one pretends to
express... express something different... Change the meaning of what the
break up means to you. Stop feeling bad about the break up and start
feeling good about it. Yes - be happy about the breakup!
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Be happy that you are getting another chance to find your
soul-mate
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Be happy that you got an opportunity to learn from your
'mistake'
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Be happy that you were saved just in time.
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Be happy that it is not your loss but your 'ex' partner's
loss.
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Be happy that God or the universe loves you
enough to have saved you from total loss.
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Be happy that you have gained freedom
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Be happy that you are now free to chose your next move.
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Be happy that you are now a smarter, wiser person.
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Be happy because your 'true love' is waiting just around
the corner.
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Be happy that your break up has a benefit in disguise.
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Be happy that from now on things are going to get better
and better for you.
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Be happy because God wants you to be happy.
Happiness is your birthright, don't let anyone take it away
from you. So be happy. Release the pain of the breakup NOW. And if you
still feel that you need help to get over the pain of the break up... then
here is more help for you:
Brainwave Entrainment for Peace of Mind
How to deal with the emotional Pain of a Break Up
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