Overcoming Jealousy and Possessiveness
 Signs of Jealousy - How to deal with jealousy - How to Get Rid of Jealousy

Dealing With Jealousy Issue in Relationships

Jealousy in relationships usually arises due to deep insecure feelings bordering along fears of loss, feeling inadequate or low self esteem and lack of confidence:

Psychology of  Jealousy

Obsessive Jealousy usually manifests as strong possessiveness and need to control. Here are some warning signs of jealousy in relationships.

• The jealous lover shows strong possessiveness over their partner.

• He or she does not trust her partner.

• The jealous person  holds his or her partner under strong suspicion all the time -- every action is considered suspicious.

• He or she has a strong fear of loss or breakup, they are scared that their lover, boyfriend, girlfriend , husband or wife (or friend - if it is only a friendship) is going to like someone else better and will leave them in favor of someone else.

•  They are scared that their boyfriend or girlfriend is lying or cheating on them - they are scared that their husband / wife or partner is infidilous.

These insecure feelings of fear of losing their partner keep on multiplying and piling up until one day the dam literally busts, and the jealous man or woman starts keeping tabs on their lover or partner to find out

•  Who he /she is talking to ;

• Who he/she is spending time with;

•  They start assigning undue meanings and associations to totally innocent conversations, meetings or even innocent glances that their partner exchanges with others,

•  They start keeping an eye on telephone calls, emails, spending habits, what the person is wearing and how he/she is dressing, where he/she goes and what he/she does –

•  They start spying on their husband, wife, partner , lover or friend.

As The jealous partner or lover becomes obsessively possessive and demanding, he or she ultimately turns into a control freak – they want to control every aspect of their innocent partner’s life – whom they talk to, what they wear, where they go, how they spend their time, what they read etc… etc.

 He or she does not want his partner, lover or friend to spend time with anyone else except him/her self -- Jealous people cannot tolerate your friendship with anyone else - irrespective of what kind of relationship you have with the 'other person'.

Signs of Jealousy - Control tactics used by insecure partners can range from:

• Becoming submissive – doing everything to please the other person in the relationship, making the other person feel overly important and then crying or showing deep hurt or sadness or using avoidance tactics to manipulate the other persons emotions if things do not go their way.

• Develop codependency – start depending on the other partner so much and making him or her feel guilty if any of their needs are not being met satisfactorily. Though beware, co-dependency may also only be a sign of lack of self esteem and self confidence in your partner and may have nothing to do with jealousy issues at all.

• Start controlling … Calling the other partner frequently, making unfair demands, wanting to accompany them everywhere, wanting to control their every move, decision, action or even thought.  

In his/her bid to hold on to the relationship with both hands, the jealous partner or lover can even turn outright judgmental, abusive, irrational and even violent.

He or she tries to undermine the self esteem and confidence of their lover or partner by using veiled threats, verbal abuse and unfair accusations and harassment – often leading to arguments, aggressiveness, shouting matches or  rage and even violence.

The jealous lover chokes off the relationship very effectively – often leading to ugly break ups… for you cannot love a person by holding him hostage.

Overcoming Jealousy: Dealing with jealousy - here is how to deal with jealousy :

If you feel that either you or your partner are experiencing insecurities or coping with jealousy in your relationship and you really want to overcome them and bond strongly with each other than… here are two very strongly recommended resources to help you deal with jealousy in relationships and get over it once and for all: Incredible Self Esteem   audios and Overcome Jealousy self Hypnosis .

The above recommended resources may be used together for exceptional results in putting a stop to jealousy. and will work wonders for your life. Please note the above recommended resources will also work for jealousy in friendships, siblings or any other relationships besides love, marriage or girlfriend, boyfriend relationships.

More coping with jealousy / How to Get Rid of Jealousy advise:

• Don't give in to unfair demands. Learn to say No when needed.

• Don't get submissive, try to please or make someone feel overly important.

• Be assertive when needed.

• Let the person know that you don't like their clingy/control attitude - tell them to go get some self esteem or present them with Incredible Self Esteem  tapes yourself and make them listen to them.

• Be yourself. And tell your friend or partner to be him / her self.

• Schedule some private time exclusively for yourself and advise your friend or partner to do the same.

•  Another very effective method of getting rid of jealousy is to use self hypnosis  Overcome Jealousy . It works incredibly well for people who are already searching for information like "how to get rid of jealousy". This is because they are already in a very highly receptive state of mind to hypnotic suggestion. So It works.

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