The emotional upheaval of breaking up
When a couple
breaks up the woman usually behaves like a total victim... in this state
she may scream and rant... cries, and accuses, and hurls abuses.
even get together with some girl friends to share her misfortunes and cry over some sympathetic
shoulders. This ranting and raving goes on until eventually she gets
exhausted and experiences a temporary burn out of emotions.
This explosive outburst
works as a potent breakup recovery therapy by burning out all the dominant
negative emotions from her mind. Her mind is now free to start thinking along
more constructive lines... about what to do next and etc. She is well on her
way to recovery.
Though In their violent stages of earth shattering anger,
women are the most likely to search for information about 'how to get revenge on their ex boyfriend'
Why man find it difficult to recover from a
But for the man,
traditionally society has created an invincible image of man. They are
programmed to project a strong and powerful masculine image. They are set
up to overcome emotional
outbursts by repressing them away...
So even though they may get angry and outwardly
show a 'I don't give a damn' or 'I don't care' kind of attitude... Deep down
all those repressed emotions have created a very sensitive psyche...
'I don't care' period has dissipated, the man will start feeling remorseful, he
may start feeling sorry for himself, He will render himself incapable of change.
They start feeling emotionally hurt and will start missing the 'good old
Man are more likely to be searching for information about 'how to get
back with my ex girl friend' or may start feeling jealous about their ex girl
friends future relationships... these negative feelings left unchecked could
ultimately skyrocket into violent behavior towards their ex girl
friend or wife.
How to Forget / get over the past
How to get over
these natural emotional reactions to break ups for both man and woman is very
important... if they hope to lead normal lives in the future... or else all
their future actions will be controlled by their past relationship... and
neither of them will be able to get very far.
In these days of high tech gadgetry, it's very
easy to forget and overcome all kinds of problems even emotional
ones using the right tools...
If you are
suffering from such emotional upheaval, it is very strongly recommended that you
erase the negative emotions from your mind and reprogram your mind with
the positive core mental patterns to experience a complete
turnaround... Check out the
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They are absolutely the best for overcoming your negative emotional blocks
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Self Hypnosis also works to help you get over
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Else if You want to go the conventional
route of therapy, a whole number of options are available... you need to
just check your yellow pages to get a good therapist in your area. Else of
course you can go the self help route by reading and applying the
multitude of tips and techniques in all the self help books that are
teeming in the self Help section of your local library.
Here are some self Help Tips to help you
forget your ex...
1. Live in the present moment -- Don't think
about the past, Don't think about the future -- Focus on the NOW.
2. Forgive that person. And start projecting
your love and gratitude for all the good times you had together.
3. Get active and totally immersed in some
activity that exhausts you both physically and emotionally to take your
mind off your sorrows .
4. Imagine wiping off your ex's memories
from your mind like cleaning a blackboard or turning off a movie screen,
and practice it often enough, until your memory of your ex gets dimmed
out, and he/she loses his/her power over you.
5. Accept responsibility for all that
happened in your life... You are responsible for what happened. You
attracted it to yourself. And you can turn around your life anytime you
choose just by changing your thoughts. So forgive yourself, and start
thinking positively to move on.
6. Meditate and learn to control your
emotions and bypass your egoism.
7. If you can successfully implement even
one of the above contemporary self help ideas, I can promise you your life
will change for the better -- However, Can You really ? - Be honest with
yourself -- That's why, again I will suggest you get the right
tools... whichever one feels good to you:
Tools to Help You Forget Your ex
Girlfriend or boyfriend fast:
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