How to get Revenge on the Other Woman / Man
When you discover the ultimate betrayal in a
relationship, your emotions can range from:
Now your ego demands revenge... I am going
to show him/ he cannot treat me like trash.
If you have been very possessive in this
relationship, and consider your partner like your 'property', and you feel that
someone is trying to steal 'it' from you or is trying to 'show one up on you'...
in such instances you seek revenge against the person your partner is cheating
with... that's when you end up searching for information like: 'how to get
revenge on the other woman' or 'how to get revenge on my wife's or girlfriend's
boyfriend or lover'.
If you are seeking revenge on the other woman or your
girl's boyfriend, then most likely, psychologically:
You are very possessive and consider your
husband or wife as an inanimate object or 'property', regardless of his/her
You most probably already know the other man or
woman personally and already have feelings of jealousy towards him/her even
before you discovered the betrayal. In some instances you might not know the
other party involved, yet you are so possessive of your relationship , that your
jealousy of anyone who associates with your partner is very strong.
Once you discover the betrayal, all your anger is
now focused on the other partner... you feel that that person is trying to steal
your most valued possession or trying to put you down... hence your ego now
demands revenge against the other man or woman --
your psychological state at that moment is
just like that of a wild animal fiercely protecting it's territory... by
fighting off any competitors.
Or if your break up has already happened,
emotionally and psychologically, you have still not been able to move on and get
out of that relationship... your feelings are bordering on hysteria... if he/she
did not let me have a good relationship, I will not let him /her have a good one
either. In fact in this case your reaction is just like that of an immature,
hurt spiteful child... He hurt me... I am going to hurt him. It's payback time.
In your case, this happens regardless of your
husband or wife's feelings in the matter. In fact you have not taken a moment to
consider why the betrayal or cheating happened in the first place...
Wasn't your husband or wife equally to blame?...
Doesn't he/she have a mind and feelings of their own which they exercised
Or was it just the other person who was
seducing and controlling your man or woman?
Or weren't you somehow also responsible partly by
being the catalyst for triggering this cheating episode in your relationship?
Here you need to stop and take a moment to
If you successfully get revenge on the other man
or woman in your 'trilogy of relationship', will you be able to get the full
attention / love or your partner? Will your relationship be able to continue
satisfactorily... or even if you eliminate this woman or man, won't there be
other woman or man for you to deal with down the road... will this stop your
partner from cheating further down in your relationship-- what if your husband or
wife is a chronic cheater?
or if the breakup has already happened and you are
successful in getting revenge on the other woman or man, will you be able to
feel self satisfied, and be able to move on happily with your own life? Will you
be able to regain your peace of mind?
Is your need for revenge simply a call by your own
ego trying to cover up and mask your own guilt and regrets in the matter?
Its a big myth... revenge never brought any
closure to any matter.
it's like she /he hurt you. You hurt her/him in
return. Will there be closure? No.
Will your pain and emotional upheaval of betrayal,
jealousy, anger, maybe even regrets and guilt go away leaving you in total
peace... NO. NO. NO.
Here the big question is...
Why do you want to hurt yourself and
continue immersing yourself in pain any longer?
Why do you want to let the other woman or man
continue to control every thought of your wakeful moments? Yes... come to think
of it... that other man or woman now has total control over your mind and your
life... You are obsessed by her/her. you are in essence his /her slave, as
he/she continues to hold you in an emotional prison. And the funny thing is ,
you have the key to this prison and you can walk out a free person anytime you
Yes the truth is ... you are holding
yourself captive to that man or woman. He / She has total power over YOu. That
woman or man dominates you. And Your pride is standing in your way.
So do you still want to get revenge? Do you
still want to get even? Do you still want to show that you are much better than
her or him? Do you still want to make that other woman or man jealous of you?
If you do,
You first have to get out from under his /her
You have to stop feeling inferior to him/her.
You have to believe that you are more
successful, more attractive, more self confident, more self worthy.
You have to show that you are more dignified and
You have to prove that you are better in every
You have to learn to deal with your emotions