Have You Had A 'Heart To Heart' Talk?

How to Deal With a Heart Break ?

How to Deal With a Heart Break - Have A 'Heart To Heart' Talk?

Relationship counselling:

The root cause of any relationship problem starts with a lack of adequate communication between the two parties involved:

It all depends on the perspective through which you are looking at things...

You may be trying to convey something but your partner may be interpreting your words and body language from their own perspective or point of view, hence get a totally different message.

In fact if you both really sat down and tried to understand what the other is really saying to you and try to look at things from each others perspective....

• You will discover that a lot of issues are mere blown out mis-interpretations of each others intentions. 

• The root cause may in fact be a very minor issue that could have been corrected very easily by remedying a few pertinent details. 

Just by controlling your impulsive feelings and reactions you yourself can take major control of your life and eliminate all the roadblocks. So...

Don’t react right away. 

You will discover that some of the behaviours you find annoying in your partner might have been triggered by you yourself...

All the while your partner might be under the wrongful impression that you like a certain thing, and hence may be doing it repetitively just to get your good will...

Without a clue that he/she is in fact triggering your impulsive juices and even anger...

While you might just be giving false acclamations thinking that you might offend his/her feelings because he/she likes doing that certain thing. 

For instance, I have noticed that I have a certain tone of voice that I use quite unintentionally and this always offends my husband and he would instantly respond angrily... while I would be left cracking my brains figuring out what the heck I did wrong, to trigger his anger.
After a little bit of quizzing I discovered that it was just my tone of voice and expressions that were inciting his impulsive reaction, irrespective of what I had really said, if I said the same thing in a more controlled way... he was not only open to listening to me but was often the first to agree... so no issue there. 

 So sit down and communicate... Have a 'heart to heart' talk, tell them exactly what you feel and think and want... without giving out wrong impressions through your body language.

 Learn how to express your feelings in a more controlled and positive way and appreciate the view point of the other. Use the concept of presenting your point of view by first accepting what the other is saying... then it just seems like you are simply discussing an issue intelligently rather than arguing or stepping on someone’s personal boundaries.

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