How to Get Attention From a Lover / Husband
/ Partner or anyone worth attracting
There is a famous true
story mentioned in one of Dale Carnegie's classics -- this story is
centered around the days when ladies lives revolved around home and
marriage, and the prospects for getting a decent marriage proposal was
First, on how much
wealth they would bring into the marriage;
second on how good
looking or beautiful they were.
Well there was
this lady of really moderate looks and even more modest means -- She did
not even have the means to be able to indulge in the latest fashions to
make herself look beautiful or attractive -- Yet she managed to get 3
really good marriage proposals -- which, in those days, was quite an
So What were her secret
tactics for getting attention, and making herself as desirable as honey to
First, she really
focused on the other person -- Yes every time a prospective young man was
with her, she would ask gentle leading questions about there work, there
adventures, there live's etc -- and really listen with total focus and
concentration to hear them talk about themselves, about there adventures,
about there interests, about there hobbies, about there achievements
etc..., she would show so much interest in them and their 'self talk',
just asking the right leading questions when needed, that those young men
really felt important around her. And at the next social gathering --
those young men would come around seeking her, to tell her about there
latest epics -- and soon they were even sharing their deepest secrets,
fears and coming to her whenever they needed sympathy-- they would soon
start considering her there soul-mate and thence of course the ultimate
marriage proposal would follow.
Here is a recap of her
How to get attention tactics:
Focus on the other
person. Ask them leading questions about there lives, work etc.
Pay attention, Listen
Make them feel important
support, encouragement, or even pamper there feelings of self importance.
Make them feel so good
about themselves that they want to keep coming back.
On the other hand, there
have been true stories where ladies have faked illness, just to get there
lover or husband's attention or even gone to extreme lengths --
For instance there is the true story of the nurse who would trigger an
illness in one of her kids every time her husband was away on a business
trip and she suspected him of cheating, then she would call him and tell
him about how the kid was in hospital, how the ambulance had been called
etc... trying to gain his sympathy -- so the poor guy would come rushing
back home half crazed out of his mind, possibly feeling guilty about his
cheating behavior, and trying to be a good husband for the next few days
-- until he could take it no longer or his cheating behavior took over
again -- this particular example ultimately resulted in the deaths of the
kids--and of course life in Jail for the concerned lady -- and the husband
went off and away... free at last.
am sure of one thing... Your motive for trying to get your husband's or
lover's attention is more honorable than the selfish thoughts of just gaining
temporary sympathy or a little self attention -- You want lasting attraction, with
love and attention forever leading to ultimate happiness, caring and
sharing -- Don't you?
So here is a sure fire
strategy for How to get your husband's or lover's attention:
Find out what your
husband's or lover's interests are and start taking an active interest in
Start making your
husband or lover feel important and emotionally comfortable with you.
Do something drastically
different -- something your husband or lover would not be expecting of you
-- for instance if you are a complainer or fault finder - stop complaining
and start complimenting; put on a happy smiling face even when your
husband or partner is expecting or even trying to make you angry or
Show more energy ,
enthusiasm and excitement in whatever you two do together;
Turn every situation
into a happy, light hearted and fun filled event, and you will surely be a
Remember no one wants to
be near a complainer; no one wants to be near an abusive or aggressive
person; no one wants to be near a person who is always sad, rude,
judgemental, angry or mean. Yet everyone wants to be near a person who is
always happy and makes others laugh, someone who listens sympathetically,
someone who makes others feel important.
You will require a
drastic change in your own attitude, outlook on life and how you view
every situation for you to be able to implement the above attention
getting strategies -- Yes you first need to feel good about yourself,
about your life and about your world -- before you can even begin to have
lasting impact on someone else's view of you ...
You can make other
people love you only to the extent that you love yourself... By this I
don't mean being conceited or have delusional feelings of self
importance... yet you need to be able to appreciate yourself, know what is
good about yourself, value yourself, and take care of yourself -- only
then you will notice a shift in other people's opinion of you and other
people will start valuing you just as much.
Now, I am going to
suggest a very easy solution for you on How to Get your husband's or
lover's attention once and for all...
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automatically start noticing a shift in the way you start viewing the
world, and the way other people including your husband or lover or partner
or others start treating you-- I have tested them myself and they work --
it's for you to decide whether you want to continue living your life the
way it is or you want to change it -- it all depends on what's important
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