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How to get over a break up - Look at Your
Breakup with a New Perspective ...
After a breakup, It's normal to experience frustration,
regrets, or guilt or anger or even jealousy of your ex- partner's future
relationships. It's okay to experience such feelings for a
short while, so that you have a chance to work through them and bring them to a
closure. But it's not okay to keep them alive. To keep on fueling them and
making the flame grow bigger and bigger until it turns into a raging all
consuming fire. A fire so intense that it will burn not only every one it
touches, but it will totally burn you out too.
You have to find a way to deal with such emotional
issues, and make them die out a gently, until those feelings are no more. Just
like extinguishing a flame in a burner. What is left is simply indifferent
empathy towards your ex. And a deep passion for you to move on with your life
and live it to the fullest.
What is basically eating at you is that you spent
such a big chunk of your time and effort and life on a worthless relationship
that ended in brutal betrayal and deception. How could he/she do that to you,
after all that the two of you had gone through together?
Or is it your ego clamoring for attention...
crying, whining... how dare he/she do that to me?
Here is a little 'quiz' that will help you put
your breakup in to a more acceptable perspective. You need to empty your mind of
any thoughts, read the proposition and select one of the choices presented.
Imagine a time machine has just been invented, you
have stepped on board and taken a flight back to your old life - with your old
boyfriend or girlfriend. Though your mind is still aware of all that will happen
in the future with your current relationship... How your partner is going to
behave, what he/she is going to do and how you are going to react. It's all
there in your mind. Now suddenly something happens with the time machine thingy
and...
1. You are stuck in a very critical situation, you
have only two choices and you have to pick one of these, knowing what will
happen in the future, which one will you choose:
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Loose everything you own including your home,
your car, your money, all your jewelry, clothes, toys and whatever you possess
including all that you hold dear to you.
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Break up with your current partner and go on to
live a very happy, successful, wealthy and satisfying life.
2. You are in the same critical situation, and you
have only two options to choose from, which one will you pick:
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Be diagnosed with cancer and die a very painful
death.
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Break up with your current partner and go on to
live a very long, healthy, happy and satisfying life.
3. You are stuck in the same critical
situation, your choices are different, yet you have to choose one of them:
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Be immersed in a life of cheating, lying,
stealing, deception, betrayal, anger and misery.
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Break up with your current boyfriend/girlfriend
to find a soul mate and experience a life of fulfilling love, happiness,
satisfaction and peace.
I hope the above ideas help you look at your break
up in a new perspective.
A breakup happened, so what? It is not the end
of the world. It happens to millions of people, they are all able to survive
and move on, and so can you.
Cut out the whining and crying and moping around, Shrug it off.
Be responsible and move on with your life ... Yes, you have a responsibility to
each and every cell of your body that makes up the organism called YOU. So Move
on.
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