Most probably you have made the decision to continue in the relationship and hence are trying to forgive the infidelity by your husband or wife. Now, Before I proceed to give you a technique of forgiving your cheating partner, I have a few questions for you:

Does your spouse know about it?

• If yes, has your spouse made a promise or commitment with you to stop cheating and regain your trust?

• If not, Why -- Why haven't you  taken your spouse or partner into the confidence and let him/her know that you know about his/her cheating, and you will forgive if he/she makes a commitment to stop cheating right now.

I will advice you to talk to your partner honestly, you should not endure his/her cheating behavior silently for whatever reason. Get a commitment from him/her that he/she will desist from further cheating and work with you towards re-building your relationship and regaining your trust.

Healing your relationship after a cheating episode can be very hard. You are healing the emotional wounds that have torn your heart apart, pierced your soul and shattered your trust in your spouse, faith in your relationship, wounded your self image and your ego and drained all your self esteem away.

 For any meaningful healing to occur, there has to be a spectacular commitment from your spouse to stop cheating and regain your love, trust and forgiveness. He or she has to make a superhuman effort to not only overcome their cheating behavior but also to conquer the guilt, the shame etc.

It will be much easier to for you to forgive your cheating partner once you know of his/her commitment to stop cheating.

To further reinforce the commitment on your partner, make him/her listen to Remain Faithful self hypnosis, so that you know for sure that he/she is making a positive effort to stop cheating.

Now it's your turn to do your part of the bargain - here is how to forgive your cheating spouse:

1.Review your life together before the cheating episode in the earliest days of your relationship, you were so happy and joyful together and very much in love.

The reason why you initially got together or married may be the reason that will ultimately keep you together. It is the motivation for your relationship, and it may well be  the one reason that will keep you working towards keeping your relationship alive. So review your original reason or motivation for this relationship - what attracted you to your partner in the first place? Re-ignite those initial emotions and feelings in your mind.

2.  Next, Repeat the following statement for affirmatory forgiving: "Spouse Name", I forgive you and give you unconditional love. God Bless you.  Say if your husband's name is Jack: Your affirmation for forgiveness will be: 'Jack, I forgive you and give you unconditional love, God bless you'.

3. The first few days, repeat the above affirmations as often as you can, and then later on repeat them whenever any negative thoughts or emotions about your spouse seep into your mind.

4. Also with your affirmations, visualize both of you together, enveloped with loving, trusting energy, being very happy and joyful together - Experiencing the same emotions or even better that brought you two together initially.

5. If you encounter any difficulties with the above forgiveness and emotional clearing exercise,  try using self Hypnosis for forgiveness : Forgive That Person

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