1. Start appreciating your partner...To appreciate a person, start focusing on his/her good qualities, what you like about him/her, in what ways he/she is behaving just like you... in fact make a list, and keep yourself focused on the good qualities. This will change your unconscious body language which will start projecting a positive vibes towards that person.

Next you may reinforce this with some verbal appreciation from time to time... Hey, everyone wants to be reminded from time to time about how well they do something, how smart or brilliant they are, or what a brilliant idea they had or how good they look... find a reason to compliment that person and start paying compliments.

 Here it would be good to know that men  feel more appreciated by compliments to how smart, how intelligent or how brilliant they are; While woman are more attracted to romantic compliments... about how they look, how they feel, how beautiful they are, how attractive they are,  how special they are and how they are making someone feel...

2. Start sharing secrets and confidences with your partner... tell them about how your day went, discuss any ideas, share any jokes or funny stories or anecdotes, share any weaknesses or mistakes you may have made... Here the thing is... Don't just talk... also Listen...

• Ask them how there day went

• Ask them about whats new or happening in their work or life

• Ask them for advice about anything you need help with or even if you don't need help... asking for advice kind of  makes the other person feel important and shows that you trust that person... hence by the principle of reciprocation... you will get trust in return.

3. Share your weaknesses or mistakes, trivial secrets... or lack of knowledge of something - again this gives the non verbal message that you consider that person worthy of your confidences... hence you get trust and confidence as a reaction.

4. Don't ever criticize or condemn... always appreciate and extol... no one wants to be reminded continuously about the mistakes that he/she may have made in the past... it makes them squirm in their seats, it makes them feel uncomfortable... No one wants to feel uncomfortable or to be around people who make them feel uncomfortable... people want to move on and get over their mistakes and weaknesses...  They want to forget about how stupid they were, and instead want to focus on how smart, advancing or progressive they are....

5. Show understanding, listen... really listen to what your partner is trying to convey to you.

6. Always project love and peace... lovingly overlook small mistakes, and appreciate even the smallest successes. If in your mind you are able to hold peaceful loving thoughts about your partner -- this will show in your attitude towards your partner through the secret code of body language and 'telepathic communication'... accordingly, you will be able to attract the same to yourself. To project love and peace, silently start blessing your partner, saying silently in your mind... 'I love you and may God bless you'.

7. Try and figure out what yours and your partners personality types are: That is, do you understand things more by hearing (audio), seeing (visually) or by feeling (kinesthetically). You might modify your communication strategies by your personality types for important matters. For instance if your partner is more a visually oriented person rather than an audio one ... you might try to present important matters to him /her with a visual flair for greater appreciation and understanding. You can determine your personality types by testing for it using the various websites available online.