How To Break Up - Ways to Break Up

How To Break Up A Dysfunctional Relationship Harmoniously

Instead of creating a ‘hurt ego situation’ its better to be more communicative even in a break-up. Otherwise there will be so many things left unsaid, so much hurt and anger, so many coulda, woulda, shoulda’s... it may even result in hate and create a bad karmic energy for you...

Explain that you had a good relationship but now you feel the need to move on... you feel that you have out grown this... not due to any limitations on your partners part but because you yourself feel totally uncomfortable in it any longer. Your dreams have changed and you need to move on.

Some conventional ways to break up a dysfunctional relationship :

• Just do the disappearing act

• Give the cold shoulder several times... this will automatically create some feelings of anger.

• Write a letter and say goodbye... Tell them you wish them the best and believe they will find someone much better.

• Send some flowers, a chocolate box and a good bye note

• Write an obnoxious note outlining all the faults as you perceive them and comparing them to a person they absolutely hate

• Just say you are not the person they are making you out to be, you are a loser, outline some faults of your own, and tell them they deserve some one much better and will get it so you are leaving them before that time comes and they give you the boot, you are moving to someone who is more in sync with your own abilities.

• Just tell them you regard them as a friend and not a lover anymore despite of the great times you have had together, they were just friendly flings and now you need to move on.

• Just tell them you love them unconditionally but feel stifled in their presence and need some breathing space and so you are moving away, wish them well and say goodbye. 

• Call him/her for a short date in a public meeting place such as a coffee house, tell them that your relationship is not going anywhere, your interests have changed and you have decided to move on and you will not be seeing them again, say goodbye and leave immediately.

• Or tell them you will love them always but you need to go... so goodbye.

Some Modern Ways to Break up:

• Write an email explaining that you have decided to break up the relationship and that this will be your last message or communication to them, so goodbye.

• Send a very short text message, saying that you are breaking up the relationship , so goodbye forever.

• Call him/her on the home phone when you are absolutely sure that no one will be around. Leave a break up message telling your girlfriend or boyfriend that you have decided to call off tonights date, and will not be seeing him/her ever again as you have decided to move on and are breaking up with him/her.

• Call him/her at work and let him/her know that you are breaking off any further contact, intimacy and the relationship totally and don't want to see them or hear from them ever again. Then hang up... Keep it short and fast... don't give him/her time to react or respond.

Some Do's and Don'ts Before YOu make the Decision to Break Up:

1. Don't give  any inkling or idea of your decision to break up before you actually inform your partner of it.

2. If you have been living together for a short while, make sure to collect all your personal stuff from your partner before informing them of your decision to break up.

3. Make the breakup only after you are absolutely sure that you are ready for it... you wouldn't have to meet your girlfriend or boyfriend again for whatever reason.

4. Please see: If you are in a long term or common law relationship or even married, the above ideas may not be applicable to you... You need to proceed with caution and get proper legal advice / follow all legal procedures for a successful break up or divorce.

The Author Shahnaz Rauf is a prolific writer with vast experience and interests. To find out more or contact her, use the contact information at her website http://www.snzeport.com

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