Overcoming Being Dumped
 How to get over being dumped - How to get over an ex

 
 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Overcoming being dumped - How to get over an ex...

So you've just been dumped and you desperately want to get over it. But the memories keep haunting you. You cannot think straight for more than a few minutes before some  view, smell, word, place or person triggers a very strong reaction in you...

The guy walking a short distance away has the same silhouette... oh could it be...Your heart skips a beat. The lady behind you was wearing the same perfume and you are feeling excited. ... oh could it be...
 That tone of voice.... The way he/she poured the drinks...

It could be almost anything that brings it all back to you.

Stop and think... what are you doing to yourself. When you can't even control the way your very own brain hops from image to image, thought to thought, how can you ever think of controlling your relationship or even your life.

Everything is spinning out of control precisely due to this reason... you don't feel like going out, because the sights remind you of - you know who.

 Is it the fear of bumping into him or her again, or is it a painful memory... or is it a beautiful memory that is making it painful for you to enjoy life right now. Whatever keeps triggering those  reactions in you... whatever vivid flashbacks keep you from enjoying the present moment...

How to get over being dumped - Here's How to deal with being dumped...

Realize...

Those flashbacks and memories are not your reality anymore. It's over. It's gone. It does not exist any longer. It is dead history. You could take a magical eraser and rub it out from the history books in your mind, if such an eraser ever existed, and it would be like it never happened before. Or it could just be a bad dream, that dissipates as soon as you wake up. You are allowing your mind to keep slipping back to dead history. You are not living your reality , you are not living your actual life. You have to stop that and realize that it's over.

Remember...

Humanity is a mass of life that keeps surging ever forward on and on. No one can ever move back in reality. The past has its hooks sunk deep into your mind and body and tries to hold you back, but the sheer surge of the forward momentum, pulls off those hooks, and what remains is the scars. You can get rid of the scars thorough 'plastic surgery of the mind' and pull yourself out of the reverse thrust, as soon as you choose to do so.

Release...

Release all feelings and emotions connected to those gone by days. Give them a loving farewell in your mind, and blow them away... just like kissing goodbye to old friends who you know that you will never meet again.  Release those feelings of pain, love or laughter. Release those emotions of anger, hurt, guilt or jealousy. They have served their purpose in your life and are no longer useful.

 Detach those emotions from the pictures in your mind and then send them away. Release them like you are releasing birds from a cage. You are giving them their freedom. As you open the cage door, the birds hop closer a bit, but are still reluctant to step out into the unknown. They need a little gentle coaxing before they finally muster enough courage to fly out the cage once and for all. Initially, the birds hover around a bit, like saying farewell to their old home and then fly away to freedom, to greener pastures to greater adventures. Let them go. You feel good for giving long captive birds their freedom, and they in turn feel grateful towards you for letting them go.

 So release, release, release, detach those emotions from the images in your mind and let them go one by one. A good way of doing this is by visualizing in your mind, by using affirmations, or through  Self Hypnosis  

Reframe...

Since you have released all the emotions in your mind, the images left behind are just dead pictures hanging on the walls of your old home. You are doing a makeover. Devoid of emotions, those pictures look just like any other pictures. You can now look at them with disinterest and detachment. They are old and faded. Yellow with age. Festering with termites and other germs of a long dead relationship.  A spring cleaning is long overdue. You take out those old pictures and put them through the paper shredder or burn them in the furnace. Now nothing is left except ashes, you dust away those ashes and throw them into the ocean or flush them down the toilet. Now you are left with a lot of empty frames. You find new, beautiful, inspiring and motivating pictures to fill them up.

Refocus...

 It is now time to fill up those empty places in your life, those spots that were previously occupied by your long dead relationship. You have just evicted a dead tenant. Refreshed and made over the rooms. Now they are waiting to be filled up again. Fill them up with beautiful images. Inspiring , motivating and life giving moments. Find a purpose you would love to focus on, and proceed to do so. Focus with passion on what you are doing. Don't look back... it has no holding power over you anymore. Don't look forward, you are so engrossed in what you are doing right now, that you don't look too far ahead anyways. Just enjoy what you are doing. Immerse yourself in it totally. Be in the thrill of the present moment.

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