Coping With a Break Up - Letting Go After a
Coping with a break up ?... your spouse / partner
or lover has recently left you or your relationship is falling apart and you are
dealing with a break up... This will be an emotionally heart wrenching time for you and you need realistic
strategies that work to help you get over this breakup as soon as
possible and move on with your life...
If you are coping with a break up, it is
normal to experience negative feelings or emotions. Even though you have
broken up and moved apart physically or legally yet, you still do need to
breakup emotionally. Your emotions are held hostage by your recent 'ex'
and the relationship you had together. You may be experiencing:
Rage and the need for revenge,
Loathing or hating yourself ,
Feeling inadequate or incapable of holding a
Feeling guilty for not having tried
Shamefulness or loss of face.
Feeling unable to survive or live without
your ex- break up partner.
Feeling Suicidal or even worse.
Such negative emotions and self talk, if
left unchecked will keep on multiplying and gaining momentum until like a
tornado... they take over your mind, suck your energy, burn the
living daylights out of you, consume you totally and really leave you
drained out and incapable of living a happy, healthy life ever again. In
effect your breakup has taken over your mind and your life.
You absolutely need to dissolve and
dissipate such negative thoughts and feelings immediately. Letting go or
breaking up emotionally is essential for you to be able to move on
normally with your life.
Coping With a Break Up - Emotional Healing After Breakups -- Dealing With the Emotions of Breakup or
Divorce -- Breakup Survival Strategies that work
every time :
Forgive your ex spouse or partner... repeat
out loud your partner's/spouse name and say " ' Name' I forgive you"...
repeat this exercise as many times in a day as you feel negative thoughts
floating into your mind.
Forgive Yourself... Repeat "'Your Name' I
forgive you and love you completely"
You could also Use Self Hypnosis to
Forgive That Person .
Visualize your ex-spouse or partner as a
great big ugly cancer or dragon and see yourself slaying this dragon,
ripping the beast apart and throwing it to the wolves. Or visualize
yourself crumpling up your ex like a worthless piece of paper and throwing
it away on a yucky pile of slime and trash. Visualize your ex powerless
Repeat the affirmation "I believe in myself
completely. I have the Power". Repeat it as many times as you can daily.
Start thinking positive thoughts and start
planning your life ahead with enthusiasm and excitement . Visualize good
things happening to you.
Disrupt all negative self talk as soon as
you notice it creeping up into your mind using any of the techniques
Start projecting peace and love to
everything and everyone around you and to everyone you have ever
encountered in your life... This will help you to overcome negative
On the more practical side of things start
exercising or walking regularly and take good care of yourself. You
Start planning and developing goals you want
to accomplish, things you want to do, places you want to see, people you
want to meet. Write down a list this will help you get started.
If you feel you need counseling or therapy to
help you eliminate the negative thoughts or emotions, stress and anxiety... try using
tapes and cd's as a much cheaper and more effective strategy:
Tools for dealing with Emotional Issues due
to a break up and to help You re-build Your LIfe: