How To Cope With a Cheating Spouse / Partner
Okay You have found out that your husband /
wife / spouse / partner is cheating... How do you react to this
information?
Yes... you are devastated, shell shocked, unable to
comprehend why this has happened.
Yes, you are
totally angry and can't think clearly. After all how dare your spouse /
partner / lover cheat on you?
Yes... the blood is rushing to your head as
adrenaline pumps up your system. You are hurting badly as you imagine your
'beloved' in someone else's arms probably even jeering at you! Oh the
shame. Oh the humiliation! How dare he / she treat you like that?
Now is the time to take a deep breath. Yes
take a step back, think clearly and show that you are superior in mind to
anyone else... Don't you know that you can still come out on top of this
situation and have the upper hand after all is said and done... just the
way you want it.
Instead of reacting wildly by confronting,
expressing anger, jealousy, hatred or fighting, instead of planning
revenge, now is the time to take a little breathing space... some quite
time to assess your true inner feelings...
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Do you really love your wife/ husband /
partner even though he / she has been cheating behind your back?
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Do You want to continue in this relationship?
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Do you want to keep your family intact?
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Do you love your partner enough to be able to
forgive and forget?
How have you driven your loving wife/ husband
/ partner into going outside the relationship to find fulfillment through
cheeting?
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Have you been giving adequate attention or
have other matters taken priority over time?
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Have you been expressing love and sharing your
life intimately with your partner?
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Have you been appreciating your wife's /
husband's contribution to the relationship?
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Is your relationship based on mutual respect
and understanding?
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Have you had adequate communication in your
relationship?
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Have you been taking the relationship for
granted and trying to control, push and do what matters to you alone?
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Have you really been listening to what your
partner may have been trying to tell you ?
Remember you need to accept responsibility for
this situation... your spouse / partner is not entirely responsible... You
have played your part too . Though this may not be very clear to you right
now. Here you need to refer to the universal law of attraction which
states that you attract what you give out. So how have you attracted this
situation of a cheating spouse into your life?
After you have really analyzed your feelings
and really accepted responsibility for your part in it. Then it is time to
have a level headed discussion with your partner. You need to keep mutual
respect and understanding in view all the time...
Do not try to control , react in anger or
hatred. Really talk, listen and pay attention. Mutual respect and
sympathetic understanding is the key here.
Points to discuss are:
Remember adequate communication can resolve
and avoid any issues.
After you have really analyzed your feelings
and really accepted responsibility for your part in it. Then it is time to
have a level headed discussion with your partner. You need to keep mutual
respect and understanding in view all the time...
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