If you were to suddenly discover that your
husband / wife / partner / girlfriend / boyfriend is suffering from a
serious illness, what will you do? Well if you are at all committed to the
relationship you will do everything in your power to take him/her to the
best doctors, and ensure that they get the best treatments available.
What if this condition was psychological? I
am sure you would take him/her to the best psychotherapists, and do your best to
get him/her to recover and heal.
Did you know that cheating in Relationships could also be a
cry for help?
For an understanding of how this works read:
Why Man Cheat?;
Why Woman Cheat
Your cheating husband/ wife or partner may be
suffering from serious psychological issues, and that's why they are apparently
cheating to 'fulfill those psychological needs'.
Though of course in your 'highly charged'
state everything seems to be seething of betrayal. Don't let just sheer anger, and
jealousy , judgment , take over your mind right away... you need to
consider the possibility that your cheating husband / wife may be
psychologically sick, and this behavior of cheating in marriage is just a symptom of that sickness.
In fact if your man / woman were to leave you
and get together with his/her cheating buddy, very soon the cheating bugs will
kick in again and compel them to cheat outside that relationship as well...
possibly even with you!
For the cheating man or woman , it is a
never ending cycle.
It will never stop unless he or she
makes a strong commitment to handle the deep rooted issues playing havoc with
their minds and their lives.
But it can be stopped if he or she
really wants it to. However, remember promises to stop cheating
alone will not work.
Because cheating spouses cannot run
forever from their own minds... The psychological issues may calm down for a
while, but will eventually raise their ugly heads again in an unguarded moment
of human weakness. And this may happen sooner than later, because it has already
happened before.
Would you consider helping your unfaithful
cheating spouses recover
their sanity?
Of course you will need total cooperation from your cheating
partner to be able to successfully overcome this ailment.
There are various ways
you could handle this situation...
-
Seek counselling about your
relationship... but this will not solve the actual underlying psychological
issues;
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Seek psychotherapy... this would work
but would require, constant repeat visits, lots of time, energy and money.
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The other option is self therapy to
recover from cheating... even in this case you need your partner's solid
cooperation.
If both of you are ready... then here
are the tools: