Is Your Partner Cheating on You -- Saving Your
Relationship
Help... My partner is cheating on me!
is this really true or Is Your cheating husband or wife , girl friend or boy friend simply
acting out the role you have assigned to him or her?
It is a well tested
psychological fact that people tend to live up to the opinions or
expectations of others.
For instance it has been proven over and over
again that when brilliant students are told over and over again by their
teachers that they won't do well in a test, the students generally tend to
prove their teacher right and same has been shown true for truly
underperforming bottom-of-the-class students -- when continuously praised
and reinforced with statements of high expectations from their teachers,
such never-do-well students performed incredibly well.
So is your partner, by his/ her cheating , lying or stealing behavior
simply living up to your expectations? or in other words is your failing
relationship simply a living nightmare of your deepest
beliefs.
Right here, right now, I want you to take a
moment and reflect on the beliefs you have always held about your
relationship with your husband / wife or partner or lover:
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Has
Your relationship been full of suspicion.
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Lack of trust.
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Full of jealous feelings.
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Full of anger and or nagging all the time
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Full of fear of losing your partner or relationship
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lack of comfortable camaraderie and understanding.
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Lack of joviality and sincerity.
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The feeling that your partner is not doing enough for the relationship.
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The feeling that he/she does not care
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The feeling to manipulate or control your partner.
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The feeling that he/she is stealing from you.
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Are you yourself all the time or you have to
put up a facade?
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Do you focus on your partner's short comings
all the time?
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Do you rub your husband or wife's or
partner's mistakes into his/her face all the time?
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Do you ridicule and make your partner feel
'small' and 'unwanted' all the time?
If any of the above thoughts or ideas have been uppermost in your mind any
time in your relationship than you can be sure that your spouse or partner
is cheating , lying or stealing from you solely to live up to your
standards or to fulfill your core beliefs. He or she is simply acting out the
roles that you have very early in your relationship assigned to him / her
consciously or unconsciously.
Here, I will be in your face to add, that your trying to repair your
relationship, or even go through a break up and then get into a new
relationship with some one else will not solve any of your problems -- you
will simply be recreating the whole cycle for yourself all over again...
and will soon be experiencing the same again -- as proven over and over
again by countless people who take to the face value of situations --
To resolve the cheating and relationship
problems in your life once and for all, you need to change your feelings
and beliefs about your relationship at the deepest levels:
Saving Your Relationship is a three step
process:
1. You need to release the current negative feelings of jealousy, anger,
suspicion etc. that you currently hold about your partner.
2. You need to replace all the negative feelings with feelings of
forgiveness, trust, confidence in your partner, love, peace, happiness,
joy and thankfulness.
3. Start visualizing yourself in a very happy, joyful and trusting
relationship with your spouse or partner.
If you are able to do all the above steps successfully, you will find your
relationship becoming progressively harmonious and happy every day.
You will be able to save your failing
marriage or relationship successfully. The
solution is right inside you. Don't seek it outside of yourself. You
have the power right now.
I urge you to take a leap of faith right now and
grab some of these
Self Hypnosis Mp3's
because they will work for you in your quest for happiness,
peace and joy.
Now you ask: "How can I simply start
forgiving my cheating spouse or partner, and engulf myself into feelings
of love, peace, happiness, acceptance , joy... that's all very well, but
it will take time to change my feelings even if I get the
Self Hypnosis Mp3's
to change myself. How do I deal with my cheating partner right now, saving
my failing marriage or relationship?
How to Save Your Failing Marriage or Relationship -- Advise for dealing with your cheating spouse and overcoming
cheating or infidelity right now is to :
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Forgive
your cheating, lying or misbehaving partner right now, simply say: " I forgive you and give you
unconditional love", and keep repeating this statement to yourself until
you start feeling it in your heart.
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Next start focusing on your partner's achievements and
accomplishments however small they may be and simply start ignoring his /
her
shortcomings.
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Start being grateful for
even the smallest favors. Start complimenting even what has not yet
materialized, start noticing all the good points, start making light of
every issue, try to find a happy perspective in every event and generate a
happy positive energy around yourself and your home.
If you are able to
project an aura of happy, light , positive energy teeming with happiness
and laughter and support for others swirling all around yourself -- You will be
attracting people to you like bees are drawn to honey -- that very same
cheating spouse, girl friend or boy friend of yours is going to want to spend all their time with
you. All ideas of cheating, failing marriage or relationship breaking
up will be gone with the wind.
You just need to make
your spouse feel special, make your spouse or partner feel accepted, make
your spouse or partner feel appreciated, make your spouse or partner feel
important, make your spouse or partner feel peaceful, make your spouse or
partner feel happy -- and you have the secret of successful relationships
at your finger tips. But Remember...
"When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself.
Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself." --
Deepak Chopra
"It's surprising how many persons go through life without ever
recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined
by their feelings toward themselves, and if you're not comfortable within
yourself, you can't be comfortable with others." -- Sidney J. Harris
Hence if you find it impossible to release your negative feelings and fill
yourself up with positive happy and attractive feelings -- you will
continue experiencing all kinds of relationship issues -- You live your
life only once, why waste it on unhappiness? That is why I urge you to try
some of the following tools:
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