How to stop thinking of someone after You break
If you are finding it difficult to get over your break up , you are
resisting / and that's why emotionally or psychologically you are still stuck in
your break up. The areas you may be resisting in :
You are trying to get even with your partner.
in your mind You are trying to prevent the break up, even though its already
Or you are trying to patch things up and get back together.
Or even worse you are trying to justify all your roles and actions leading to
One or more of the above issues are keeping the flame alive in your mind
consciously or subconsciously. If you pay just a little attention to your mind
chatter... those subroutines that are playing around in your mind
continuously... Every waking moment you find yourself falling into those very
You will discover that your mind chatter is grounded in one
central theme... You could be playing or replaying ideas of revenge, or getting
even with your ex or your ex's 'other partner'; Or you could be justifying your
position in the breakup i.e. caught up in a cycle of guilt and regrets; Or you
could be plotting ways to get back together with your ex.
What ever the theme, it is all because you are
resisting the break up and what
you resist persists. The moment you stop resisting your break up and accept it,
you will instantly experience a 'great load' being lifted off your mind... It
will be an intensely liberating moment.
So the first step in overcoming your breakup, is
to accept the fact totally and unconditionally. Stop Resisting Your break up
Even though your break up may have been extremely traumatic and painful,
remember it is the experiences in ones life that mold and shape a personality
and allow you to move forward. So Draw upon the strengths of your breakup.
Instead of turning into one angry bitter person, let your break up bring out the
beautiful inner qualities that you truly possess. Let the suffering bring out an
attitude of compassion. Feel the compassion for your ex and anyone else
associated with your break up. Replace your debilitating mind chatter with
feelings of compassion and very soon you will be able to get rid of the negative
mind chatter regarding your break-up altogether.
One practical way to stop thinking of someone after you break up is to
immerse yourself into some work that engages both your mind , body and soul...
It engages you both physically and mentally... So that at the end of the day ,
you are too exhausted to think of anything except fall asleep instantly. If you
can keep this level of activity up for a few weeks ... you will find that the
feelings and memory for that special someone with whom you broke up , start
fading away with time... Until they loose any tangible hold over you.
For more strategies to help you forget your ex read the following articles:
That can help you in getting rid of the break up memory or mind chatter :