How to Break up with a Girl
You are living in the super fast cellular
age... break up can be as simple as a short phone call, an sms
message, an fast and quick email explaining why you cannot continue in the
relationship anymore and need to break up or for the slow poke... even a
snail mail or even a face to face 'show down', or the more elegant dinner
and flowers good bye -- it all depends on the depth and breadth of bonding
with this girl you want to break up with. For instance:
if you have just known the girl
for only a short while,
Probably been on a few dates, then a quick email
note or phone message canceling any further dates or meetings, and
letting her know that you will not be seeing her or calling her again and
wishing her well will do. Of course she might be heart broken, enraged or
even call you up for an explanation -- she has to be mature enough to face
such issues with a strong self esteem and confidence -- You cannot fight
all her battles for her and have to let her handle this rejection on her
own -- though of course to break up gracefully, there are a few essentials
you have to communicate to her:
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Let her know that You will not be calling or
seeing her again.
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A possible reason (say you are moving on or
have developed other interests)
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Thank her for your time together and wish
her well.
How to breakup with a girl in a long
term /non legal relationship ( with no obligations such as financial, kids
etc) :
But what if you have been in a long term
relationship with this girl but not in any legal / living together
arrangement, and now want to breakup with her -- You may have been deeply
attached and emotionally involved with her in the past -- But now due to
reasons best known to yourself, you are feeling emotional burnout.
Perhaps, this long term relationship has started breaking down and
disintegrating in various subtle ways ... In this instance you need to be
able to tell her face to face about your decision to break up with this
girl. Here is a bit of break up advice for you :
If you are feeling overwhelmed and wondering
how to break up with your girl -- Don't be -- You have every right to walk
away from this relationship if you experience emotional burn out, stress
from this relationship, or find it destroying your life -- you have every
right to get out of it at once as long as you do not have any legal or
social obligations.
If you are having emotional problems
breaking up - feeling guilty, under obligation etc. or feel that you
are under strong influence or power of the girl and do not feel strong
enough to initiate the break up - you can sort this out by using the self
hypnosic tapes such as:Get Over a Lover!
,
Dump Them Now! ,
No More Mr. Nice Guy!
Other wise just go right up to the girl,
tell her the truth that you are feeling emotional burnout and cannot
continue with this relationship anymore, hence you cannot continue seeing
her or being with her anymore and want to say good bye. IN this case be
prepared to give a short explanation if asked by the girl. Keep this
meeting in a public place to avoid a show down. Keep it short. But be
honest, forthright.
Do not cheat -- If you owe the girl anything
such as money etc. give it to her and leave.
How to break up with a girl in a long
term / common law relationship
In this case financial and legal matters
have to be taken care of -- you may need to consult with your lawyer to
work out any property distribution issues. But please:
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