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How to Deal With a Break Up...
Healthy Ways to Deal With a Breakup
If you have been in any close passionate
relationship for any length of time -- even a long term relationship -- You have experienced love,
attachment, a sense of belonging and sharing, togetherness or doing things
together, trust, friendliness, liking and caring, and of course the sexual
In the event of a break up, you are suddenly
and swiftly swept along with the changing emotions and deep under currents
of the break up. You land with a painful thud when the realization hits you
that you have just broken up with your 'beloved' and your 'sweet heart' is
now your ex-
You are suddenly left to face and deal
with huge empty spaces glaring at you...
No more love nest.
No more dates, dinners, fun and other shared
No more emotional and even financial
No more trust that you can fall back and
rely on someone
Only broken hopes, expectations and dreams
-- And huge chunks of empty time and spaces -- You are left to
fill up with all the good memories and mementos which now feel even more
magical and fairy tale like, now that they are no more.
How to Deal With a Break Up - 12
Strategies that work every time to Help You Get Over a Break Up - How to
Move On After a BreakUp :
Immediately after your break up, schedule
some time for grieving... during this time you can cry, rant and rave your
grievances, anger at the unfair treatment you received... let all your
emotions drain out of you.
Start packing up the old baggage... go
through all your memorable mementos, photographs, albums, letters etc...
Throw away , give away or pack away for storage not to be opened for a
long, long time... at least until time has soothed away all the emotional
hurts of this relationship.
Next schedule some quiet time in some
inspiring spot, where you are going to sit and think... mentally let the
relationship go... Yes let it go. Get it out of your system. Give it a
decent burial in your mind and scatter the ashes away... Be done with the
Next you have to become a bee hive of
activity... you have a lot to do... you have to recuperate, rebuild and
sail away... this is the first day of the rest of your life... so start
planning. It's going to be exciting.
Take a sheet of paper and start writing your
thoughts ideas and hopes for your future... write everything down. This
process may take a while and you can spread it out over a number of days.
This is your planning stage. So plan , plan , plan...
What do you want to do?
where do you want to go?
Places you want to visit;
work you want to do;
any educational goals...etc.
Simply let your plans flow out of you...
here relationship plans can take the back burner for a while... focus on
career, education, traveling, starting new hobbies, taking up new
activities, developing new skills, or even meeting new people.
Finally pick just one goal from your list
and start working towards it enthusiastically, one step at a time. Take
If you feel you need support, you can join
the various relationship break up support groups, clubs etc that are
available, or even get involved in some voluntary activity.
Start reading or listening to some positive
material every day and keep yourself away from negative news, events, or
even friends who drain your energies.
For Strategies on how to deal with a break
up spiritually to dissolve all negative self talk and put your emotions on
the right track, read the following article:
Coping With a Break
Remember, never to look back. Forward ever.
Re-inventing yourself on the outside will
not do the trick alone. You need to re-invent yourself from the inside
out. You need to work on your mind to change your attitudes, behaviors and
thought patterns. That is the only way you will be able to get rid of your
worn out emotions and start looking at things with new eyes. You
will be able to put away this experience in your life just like any other
hurdle you have encountered in your life. You hardly remember it now,
though your experiences are the richer and more confident just because of
it. Various self help tools are available on the market to help you feel
better, more confident, have a more positive self image and feel more
powerful. Try them out.
Be spontaneous with your life. Don't follow
the old worn out patterns of doing things just because that's the way they
have always been done. Follow your own hunches and just decide to live a
happy, lighter, love filled life come what may.