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How To Dump a Woman and Not Look Like a Bad
Guy
Breaking up is never easy. The important
thing to do is to minimize the damage when it is time to drop those time
tested magic words that simply goes like this: "It's not you, it's me".
Sometimes it can't be helped, despite of a couple's best effort, a
relationship goes sour. It's nobody's fault, so you claim. But it is
important that you say this with complete conviction. Otherwise it just
becomes another cliché, and this might be enough to ignite her anger.
Instead of having a nice, clean, hassle-free break up, it becomes a big
blown out scene with sobs and all. Take note, that those pathetic sobs
will not come from a woman!
Here are some tips that men could memorize, on how to break up with a
woman. This might come in handy some day, so commit it to memory!
1. Location is key. Men who are planning to break up with their
girlfriends should prepare ahead of time. They should make sure
that the break up doesn't happen on her home turf. Because this
will put men on a disadvantage. Pick a place that is neutral.
Her favorite restaurant is not considered neutral.
This will only rouse her memory of all the happy times you
spend together on that place. This environment might have the
effect of her coming down on you like a ton of bricks. Before
you know it, she will be blaming you for everything that is
going wrong in her life. Plus, everyone will look at you like
you are the bad guy. No sir, this is not a good idea! You will
not win any sympathy votes here. Try the park instead!
2. Never break up with a woman over the phone. This will earn
any man the title of the scoundrel of the century, and rightly
so. Men should at least honor the woman who became a part of
their lives with their presence when it comes time to call it
quits. It is the noble thing to do.
3. Don't let her be the last to know. There is saying that goes
"Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned". This is something that
any man would not want to experience in person!
If a man is thinking of breaking up with his girlfriend, he
should not let the word out on it until the girlfriend has been
informed. Imagine the drama that it will create if she found out
about it through one of his friends, or worse gossip.
The confrontation that will then ensue will be ugly! Men should
save themselves this headache by telling their woman first.
4. Timing is everything. Never break up with a woman during her
birthday, or Valentines Day! At all costs, holidays should be
avoided. This is just plain cruel!
5. Men should tell their girlfriend the reason why they are
breaking up with them. This would be the decent thing to do. So
afterwards, she will not wonder as to why the whole thing fell
apart. Put it this way, if it were the other way around, you
would want to know too! Be honest but kind. Afterwards, men can
congratulate themselves for the sensitivity they've displayed
and feel good about themselves!
6. If she starts screaming at you, don't scream back. Consider
it the price you have to pay for ending what maybe in her eyes,
"a match made in heaven". Some women are naturally emotional.
Men should expect some display of histrionics when it is time
to break up with their girlfriends. In fact, they should
prepare for it.
Before a man breaks up with a woman they have to make sure that
his decision is final! There will not be turning back once this
deed is done. If he suddenly changes his mind after breaking a
woman's heart, the chances are it will not be likely that she
will take him back. This is the part when a man's life takes an
ugly turn because now he is completely at the mercy of the
woman. Make sure that this doesn't happen to you by thinking
about this decision many times over.
Once you've decided that there is not future for the two of
you, take the high road, and play the sensitive guy! This way,
she will not hold the break up against you, and she will tell
everyone she knows that you're the bad guy!
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