If You are on the verge of breaking up relationship, wondering whether should we break up or not - Here is a little piece of age old advice:

To Thine Own Self Be True.

Personalities of the two partners can make or break a relationship, you can tell right now whether you are ready for a long term commitment with your partner or for a breaking up the relationship.

Here are two fundamental  points to keep in view at all times in a relationship:

1.  Physical looks loose their charm after having being together for a while... Also they may wear thin with time.

2.  Passion in a relationship burns out faster than a dying flame if no special efforts are made to keep it alive.

What keeps a relationship going through the thick and thin, through sickness and health, through money and lack, through all kinds of ups and downs are:

• Love,

• Affection,

•  Understanding,

•  Support,

• Trust,

•  Respect

• Liking and,

• Commitment.

If you are finding it difficult to make a decision to break up, I want you to be honest with yourself - Yes to thine own self be true as the saying goes.  Analyze your relationship from the point of view of the above factors.

 IN your opinion how would you rate your relationship with your partner: Assign a numerical value between (1 to 10) to how you rate your relationship between your partner in terms of Love, affection, liking, understanding, support, trust, respect, and commitment. :  with 1 being the lowest, and 10 the highest.

 For instance, if you have a very good understanding it could be a 10, low understanding would be say a 2 . You need a score of at least 5 in all the above values to even consider a long term commitment. Anything below that, and you need to do some serious thinking.

Now here are a few visualization exercises to help you get clarity and a deeper understanding and help You make the decision in favor of a long term commitment or a breakup

1. Visualize: You have recently made some bad decisions and are on the verge of bankruptcy -- you are out of money -- no dinners, no flowers, no gifts, no expensive indulgences, -- total flat out broke - can you see your partner going through this difficult period with you, or do you see a clash of personalities in this difficult time?

2. Imagine that due to some unforseen medical condition you have suddenly lost the ability to perform in bed - will your partner be able to live with you happily as a friend or will he/she start cheating on you? What do you think?

3. Imagine: both of you have grown old you are seriously sick, almost bed ridden, can you see your current boy friend or girl friend cleaning you up, feeding you, doing your toilette and taking good care of you -- Will he or she be able to do that?

Now lets reverse the visualization, its your partner, can you see yourself taking good care of him/her? - Will you be able to do that?

4. Can you see the two of you growing old together without any regrets?

Be totally honest with yourself: Do you really deep down in your heart want to continue with this relationship - is your heart in this relationship - Yes or No.

If the answer is a Yes ... then you need to review the list of values above, get your partner involved and work on improving any area where in your opinion has a low rating.

If your answer is NO... can you explain why - it could be any reason -

•  You have grown apart,

•  You have a clash of personalities,

•  A clash of interests,

•  You cannot see yourself growing old with your partner,

•  You cannot see yourself in a long term relationship with your partner .

What ever - Be very honest both to yourself and to your partner.

Once you have made the decision to break up, then don't delay. Be very honest, respectful  and straight forward with your partner. Explain the whole thing. Then make a clean break of it. No looking back for either of you. Move on.