What's the Best Way to Get Over a Break Up
It is hard to end a relationship. However once you
are done with it, getting over the break up can be oh so simple. You don't have
to make it hard by jumping through hoops and hoops of self analysis, planning,
trying to forget and in general doing things that entrench you deeper and deeper
into the woes of your breakup.
Remember that famous NLP saying 'Don't think
of a pink elephant', that is exactly what makes you think about it even more,
you start focusing on it like the bulls eye of a target practice. So much for
the 'don't think about your breakup advice' or 'take your mind off it
activities'.
Remember your subconscious mind has a life
of its own, it's beyond the control of your conscious thoughts and mind, so if
you are trying to drown out your break up woes by numbing your subconscious by
indulging in drink, watching movies or trying very hard to focus on other
interesting things, your subconscious gets even more securely latched on to
those destructive emotions and feelings of your breakup.
Remember that wallowing in feelings of self
pity and bawling over your best friends shoulder will only subdue those emotions
for a while but will not get rid of them entirely. If anything, that crying
binge is going to bury them deeper into your subconscious creating 'off limits'
regions or sub routines in your 'memory stick'. These are going to lie low like
dormant viruses and will flare up every time you dare to step into a new
relationship. In fact, all your new choices will be subconsciously controlled by
those long dormant sub routines. I'm sure you have heard of people ending up
with same kinds of guys or gals with different 'faces'. This happens because of
the subroutines buried deep in their memories.
And I'm pretty sure that you don't want to be left
with residues of your old relationships subconsciously controlling all your
life. So listen up.
The best way to get over a break up fast is to
focus precisely where it hurts... on your emotions and feelings. Instead of
trying to bury them deep, why not try changing them.
I know that your mind is going : "How can I change
my emotions." It's quite simple actually...
You are being advised to move from a disempowering
place to a more empowering place i.e you are required to change the feelings
attached to your particular emotion... say, Instead of wallowing in self
pity for yourself, initially why not 'wallow' in pity for your 'ex'
partner. This will shift your focus from your own self pity to feeling sorry or
pity or compassion for your partner, and personally you will be in a more
empowering spot. For instance...
For the next few days, every time you catch
yourself angry, or jealous, or feeling guilty or sad... simply shift those
disempowering emotions for yourself, to disempowering emotions for your ex...
Say you could think...
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"I am so sorry for the poor fellow..."
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" he / she was so gullible..."
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" He/ she was such a damn fool..."
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"Oh, he/she was such a freak... Good riddance"
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"I was so silly really to have fallen for such a
pathetic guy or gal, I've learned from this experience."
Yes, change the way how you remember or think
about your ex.
If you are able to repeat this strategy often
enough, you will find that the intensity of your original emotions starts
dimming until it reaches a point where you don't feel it anymore. And it's gone
for good.
Now if you are finding it particularly hard to
apply the above strategy or your emotions around your breakup are very painful
to deal with, then here is another technique to shift your disempowering
emotions : Spiritual Revenge
Every time you are able to visualize a
Spiritual Revenge ,
you will find the intensity of your original emotions keeps diminishing until
they simply fade away.
Tools
That can help you get over a breakup fast:
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