How to Take a Bad Break Up
Take it as a challenge to be overcome.
I know that all the words above sound beautiful
and rational, your mind thinks so. Yet your heart has run away with a rhythm of
its own engulfed in all the turbulent energies of your bad breakup. You are
probably still in shock of the break up, vibrating with disbelief, confusion and
rage. Probably your heart is numbed with the pain and trauma of the breakup. Yet
please...
Don't take it personally. Don't let it put you
down. The fact that you have broken up and the fact that it was a bad breakup
does not necessarily reflect on any short comings in you as a person. The actual
reasons of the breakup may be quite different from the apparent reasons. True
you and your partner - girlfriend or boyfriend or spouse could not get along or
had major differences of opinion towards the end of your relationship. Both of
you were right from your own individual perspectives. Just because you could not
see eye to eye does not mean:
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That you are in any way a lesser person.
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That you were not good enough.
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That you can't find future happiness in
relationships
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That you have 'lost face' in any way whatsoever.
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That you were rejected.
So don't waste your life away trying to make sense
of why your husband or wife or girlfriend or boyfriend dumped you. Most likely
any love in your relationship had burnt out a while ago and it was only a matter
of time. Or you or your partner had been idealizing a relationship that
never was. Or your partner was dissatisfied with you due to shortcomings he /she
thought you had, which in actuality were a reflection of his/her own
psychological musings. So don't try to give meaning to a meaningless situation.
Don't try to idealize a relationship which never
was. Don't wish for approval from your ex. Don't try to 'win the argument' for
the mere sake of proving yourself right. It's over and done with. The breakup is
final and that's what's important. So don't go getting angry, enraged, or
guilty, or jealous, or regretful, or feel the need for revenge. Don't try
to fight a dead cold war. That would not be a masterful strategy.
Even though you might have been a victim of
cruelty or abuse, even though you might still be in a state of disbelief, shock
that it happened or utter confusion about it , don't get inconsolable with
thoughts like...
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I am too old to get over this break up or find
someone else
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I spent a long time and effort on this
relationship, how can I just get over it
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I loved him/her even though he/she dumped me, I am
hurt
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How could he/she do that to me, I want revenge
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I wish I could get him/her back.
Oh yes, it was painful while it lasted. Oh yes, it
was bad. Oh yes, it made you sad and even angry or mad. Yet it's over. So step
out of it just like you would step out of a bad dream, never wishing to go back
again. If you are or you know a cancer survivor, that person would never want to
go back into his nightmare, he would not even want to think about it once its
over. So heave a sigh of relief. This blood sucking phase of your life is over.
Just take all the powerful life lessons from this association, leaving all the
painful ones behind and move on.
Now you can only go forward and things can only
get better. Survivors against incredible odds are real heroes. And you're going
to be a survivor. So don't look so long at that closing door that you can't see
other doors of opportunity opening up for you.
Yes, incredible as it may sound, you have just
been presented an opportunity to fulfill your life long dreams or find your true
passion in life. You don't want to say No to this opportunity. So go plan and
then work out your plans.
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