Bad Breakups

How to get over a bad break up with child involved in the relationship















How to get over a really bad breakup with a child involved

If you have just gotten through a really bad break up with a child involved. Your first and foremost concern should be for the child's well being. Children are very sensitive and not able to comprehend the situation fully. The child may be totally scared and confused, Even traumatized at being separated from one or both of the people he/she regarded as the centre of his/her universe. In fact the child right now feels that his/her universe has come crashing in. So your first concerns should be:

1. Re-assure the child that he/she is not the cause of the break up. Here is an idea you might want to check out -  How do I tell the Kids about Divorce?

2.  You should have a financial plan or a job to be able to ensure a secure life for the child and yourself.

3. If you have any custodial issues where the child is concerned then you might want to urgently check out

4. Don't be too high and mighty to ask for help or support from your friends and family. Especially keep the grand parents or other relatives the child is emotionally attached to involved. They can come in handy for emotional back up support or in providing some baby sitting or fun time to the child when you are away at work or in other duties. Also they can help the child stay grounded.

5. Explain the situation to the child, but don't try to put down the other parent too much. Be careful around this issue. It could hurt your child even more. In fact if possible re-assure the child that nothing has changed in his/her relationship with the two parents. Both still love the child. And try and soothe any fears away.

6. Try and keep the transitional phase while changing homes, or changing jobs, or changing school for the kid as smooth as possible.

7. Don't expose the child to your own frustrations and emotional pain or anger, he/she has got enough of his/her own emotions to deal with. Show that everything is under your control and that you are someone the child can trust and rely upon.

8. Don't try to block parental visits with the other parent or don't make the child feel guilty for liking the other parent as well.

9. Encourage the child to get involved with friends and other extra- curricular activities to keep him/her occupied in a healthy way.

10. Once you have managed to bring some semblance of normality into your every day life, it is now time for you to take charge of your own emotional pain as well. Remember you have got added responsibility and hence you don't have the privilege to indulge in emotionalism. Or to  prolong the pain any longer than is necessary. So use Brainwave Entrainment! to bring some peace and tranquility into your life. It will help you get over the break-up that much faster.

10. Finally, don't be in a hurry to get into a new relationship. Make sure that your child and you have healed completely before you can even think about it.


How to get over a Bad Breakup - Tools That can help you Recover  fast:


















  Self Help Audio  CD's... 
Supreme Confidence, Incredible Self Esteem,  Freedom From Depression, Win Friends, joy, happiness &  More...
Self Hypnosis Mp3's for Dealing With break up   Forgiveness, overcoming jealousy, managing anger, Remain Faithful,  Getting over an ex - & lots more. Explore over 120 Titles!


 How to get over a really bad breakup  -  More Articles:





The Author Shahnaz Rauf is a prolific writer with vast experience and interests.
To find out more or contact her, use the contact information at her website


  • This article cannot be copied or published or distributed in any form whatsoever. Read them and enjoy them right here, if you feel any of them could be beneficial to your friends, you may recommend this page or the relevant article page to them. 

  • These articles are for information purposes only So Use them at your own risk and liability.

  •  All Material Here Is Copy Righted. Plagiarization / Copying Will be Prosecuted. ISP and Various Anti-Scam organizations will also be alerted.






Copyright [C] 2001 - 2010 Shahnaz Rauf. All rights reserved. Please note this site and all the material here is protected by copyright. Any unauthorized use or copying is strictly prohibited. This site is also protected by features of advanced statistical concepts. IP addresses of all visitors and their activities on this site  are automatically recorded. Thus we have the ability to trace out and take legal action against unauthorized users/illegal elements.